What fascinates me in this work is that often things aren't what they appear to be.
Once we uncover the hidden dynamics, a resolution may look very different from what we would have expected.
After 15 years of marriage a couple struggles: he drinks and he loses control and gets angry. Marriage Counseling to deal with his anger hasn't helped. As we take a closer look at what is driving his anger, systemically, here is what we found.
Years ago, around the time of the real estate crisis, the husband started a Foreclosure Business. He ends up making money from the families losing their homes; sometimes he had been the Realtor selling those houses in the first place.
It becomes clear that he has become entangled and identified with so many of the people that lost their houses; carrying their anger and grief, he got so burdened by this that he started drinking which eventually challenged his marriage (just like a lot of his clients were going through marital conflicts as a result of their losses).
At this point, to save his marriage, he had to give up his foreclosure business and go back to regular real estate.