There are several different kinds of anger.
For example, if someone attacks me or does me an injustice
and I react with appropriate anger and rage,
this anger enables me to defend and assert myself energetically and effectively.
It enables me to act. It is constructive and it makes me strong.
This kind of anger is to the point and it dissolves when it
has achieved its goal.

I may also become angry because I realize that I have not accepted
what I could, or that I've not demanded what I ought to have demanded,
or that I've not asked for what I could've asked for.
Instead of asserting myself and taking what I need,
I'll become angry with the persons from I have not taken or asked
or demanded, although I could have or ought to have taken or asked or
demanded from them.
This anger is a substitute for action and the result of inaction.
It has a paralyzing and weakening affect and often lasts a long time.
Anger as a substitute for love works in a similar way.
Instead of expressing my love, I become angry with the person I love.
This sort of anger goes back to childhood when it was caused by a painful
interruption of movement toward my mother or father.
It is repeated in similar situations later in life and derives its power
from the repetition of the early experience.

I sometimes become angry with someone because I've wronged that person
but I don't want to admit it. I use this anger as a defense against the
consequences of my actions, and I make the other person responsible
for my guilt. This anger is also a substitute for action.
It enables me to remain inactive. It paralyzes me and makes me weak.

I may become angry when someone gives me so much that I cannot repay
the debt. That's hard to bear, getting too much that is good, and I become angry
with the giver as a means of defending myself against the obligation
to compensate. This kind of anger is expressed in the form of blame,
for example, when children blame their parents. It functions as a substitute
for taking, excepting indebtedness, thanking, and acting with gratitude.
It paralyzes those who experience it and leave them empty. Or it may take the
form of depression, which also serves as a substitute for taking, accepting,
thanking, and giving. It may also be expressed as a long-lasting sadness after
a separation, particularly if I still owe acceptance and gratitude,
or feel to acknowledge my own guilt and its consequences to someone
who has died or left.

Sometimes people are filled with anger they have taken over from someone
else. For example, when a participant in the group suppresses anger,
another member of the group (usually the weakest one) subsequently
becomes angry for no apparent reason. In families, the weakest member
is a child. When, for example, the mother suppresses her anger toward
her husband, one of the children often becomes angry with the father in her stead.

The weakest member of a group or family often becomes not only the instrument,
but also the target, of anger. For example, when people suppressed anger toward
a superior, they often take it out on a weaker person in the company. Or when a
husband suppresses anger towards his wife, a child often becomes the target of his anger.
Or a daughter and her mother's anger toward her husband, not on her father,
but on someone with whom she is on a more equal footing, such as her own husband.
In groups, weaker member of the group becomes the scapegoat for this assumed
anger rather than the stronger person, therapist or a group leader, for whom it was
originally intended. Those who have taken on anger have a specific quality of
rage and feel proud and righteous, but they are acting with alien energy and alien
righteousness and remain ineffective and weak. The victims of assumed anger also
feel strong in their righteous indignation, but, in fact, they remain weak,
and their suffering is pointless.

Finally, there is an anger that is virtuous and beneficial. It is strong,
wakeful, centered, and assertive, and is directed toward appropriate goals.
It is enlightened and courageous, incapable of facing up to hard and powerful adversaries.
But it is without emotion. Persons experiencing this kind of anger do not shrink
from harming others when necessary, but you're not angry with the person in question.
This aggression is pure strength. It is the fruit of long discipline and practice,
but it comes easily to those capable of it.

Scientists Have Found That Memories Can Be Passed Down Through Generations In Our Genes

New research from Emory University School of Medicine, in Atlanta, has shown that it is possible for some information to be inherited biologically through chemical changes that occur in DNA. During the tests they learned that that mice can pass on learned information about traumatic or stressful experiences – in this case a fear of the smell of cherry blossom – to subsequent generations.

According to the Telegraph, Dr Brian Dias, from the department of psychiatry at Emory University, said: ”From a translational perspective, our results allow us to appreciate how the experiences of a parent, before even conceiving offspring, markedly influence both structure and function in the nervous system of subsequent generations.

“Such a phenomenon may contribute to the etiology and potential intergenerational transmission of risk for neuropsychiatric disorders such as phobias, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder.”

This suggests that experiences are somehow transferred from the brain into the genome, allowing them to be passed on to later generations.

The researchers now hope to carry out further work to understand how the information comes to be stored on the DNA in the first place.

Professor Marcus Pembrey, a paediatric geneticist at University College London, said the work provided “compelling evidence” for the biological transmission of memory.

He added: “It addresses constitutional fearfulness that is highly relevant to phobias, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorders, plus the controversial subject of transmission of the ‘memory’ of ancestral experience down the generations.

“It is high time public health researchers took human transgenerational responses seriously.”

“I suspect we will not understand the rise in neuropsychiatric disorders or obesity, diabetes and metabolic disruptions generally without taking a multigenerational approach.”

Professor Wolf Reik, head of epigenetics at the Babraham Institute in Cambridge, said, however, further work was needed before such results could be applied to humans.

He said: “These types of results are encouraging as they suggest that transgenerational inheritance exists and is mediated by epigenetics, but more careful mechanistic study of animal models is needed before extrapolating such findings to humans.”

As the original journal article published in the prestigious journal Nature concludes, “Our findings provide a framework for addressing how environmental information may be inherited transgenerationally at behavioral, neuroanatomical and epigenetic levels.”

Could our DNA be carrying spiritual and mystical memories passed down in genes from the experiences of our ancestors?  Does something such as spiritual evolution fester its way into the genetic sequence and carry over into the next generation? We now have a scientific framework for answering these questions.

Back in my car, I journal until it is time to make the short drive to my second session, Family Constellations, whatever that means…

First of all, her name is Divyo and her home is amazing. The views from her huge living room window will make you reconsider your life. Divyo has this fantastic German accent that I felt enhanced our session, as many of my family members are of German descent and this session was supposed to be about my family through the generations…